September 11, 2026
Weighing an AI Dating Assistant Against the Rest: A Real Cost-Time-Privacy Table
An ai dating assistant compared against swipe apps and human matchmakers on cost, time, and privacy — a straight table, not a sales pitch.
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On the end of swiping.
Notes on dating fatigue, the economics of the swipe, and what changes when an agent does the looking.
September 10, 2026
Bigger Radius, Better Odds? The Distance Myth Nobody Questions
Widening your dating app radius feels like a free upgrade. The evidence on distance, attention, and match quality says otherwise — here's the myth-check.
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Intentional Dating: What the Term Actually Means, Beyond the Buzzword
Intentional dating gets used as a vague virtue. Here's what it actually means, mechanically, how it works day to day, and who it genuinely suits.
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Applying to a Selective Dating App: A Step-by-Step Walkthrough
A step-by-step guide to applying for a selective dating app — what the vetting actually checks, how to write an application that gets through, and what to do while you wait.
Read →September 7, 2026
Six Beliefs About Dating App Fatigue That Don't Hold Up
Dating app fatigue gets explained with a lot of confidence and not much evidence. Six common beliefs about it, checked against Pew, Ofcom, and Match Group's own numbers.
Read →September 6, 2026
Inside the Match Group Filing Nobody Reads Before Downloading Tinder
An ai matchmaking deep dive into Match Group's actual 10-K filings — what "payers" really measures, and why the incentive it reveals matters.
Read →September 5, 2026
Picking a Dating Method in 2026: Cost, Time, and Privacy, Side by Side
Choosing a dating method in 2026 means weighing swipe apps, matchmakers, and AI matchmaking on cost, time, and privacy — not just gut feeling.
Read →September 4, 2026
"You Have to Kiss a Lot of Frogs": The Dating App Myth That Rewards the App, Not You
"Kiss a lot of frogs" gets used to justify endless swiping. Here's what the evidence on volume, fatigue, and match quality actually shows about the advice.
Read →September 3, 2026
Invite-Only Dating App: The Full Definition, No Marketing Gloss
An invite-only dating app, defined plainly: how the gatekeeping actually works, what it fixes, where it falls short, and who it genuinely suits.
Read →September 2, 2026
Why Dating Apps Don't Work For You: A Fix, Not Just a Diagnosis
Why dating apps don't work isn't a mystery — it's a design problem. Here's a concrete, step-by-step way to actually fix it, starting today.
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